Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth

Do you give everything to everyone around you but struggle to give anything to yourself?

Have you ever stopped and honestly asked yourself how you actually treat yourself? Not how you show up for everyone else, but how you show up for yourself when nobody is watching?

Do you feel like you have been healing from covert narcissistic abuse but something about the way you see yourself still feels off and you cannot quite name it?

In this episode I am getting behind the mask because low self-worth after covert narcissistic abuse does not always look the way we think it does. It can hide behind generosity, behind functioning well, even behind a  spiritually busy life. I am sharing some specific patterns that reveal what is really going on underneath, so you can finally see what has been quietly running your life and know that it is not who you are. This one is for every woman healing from narcissistic abuse who is ready to get honest about her own healing journey and start addressing the real root.

 

Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop Happening on Tuesday, May 26 at 7 PM ET

→ www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop

 

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

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→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

 

You have been working on your confidence — praying, pushing through, doing the inner work. And some days you feel great. Other days...lower than ever. In this episode I'm talking about the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem is tied to what is happening around you and will always fluctuate. Self-worth is the God-given value you carry simply because of who made you...and no smear campaign, no gaslighting, no person's opinion can touch what He declared over you. I dive into how narcissistic abuse specifically moves your worth from the inside to the outside without you realising it and five ways to recognise if your worth is still tied to external things. If you are healing from narcissistic abuse, rebuilding your self-worth and tired of feeling stuck — this episode is going to give you something solid to stand on.

 

Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop Happening on Tuesday, May 26 at 7 PM ET

→ www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop

 

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

 

You would probably say you trust God. And you mean it. But if you are honest, there is a version of you that is also constantly trying to figure things out, manage outcomes, and hold everything together — and you are not always sure how those two things coexist. In this episode we get into one of the most honest conversations about what it actually means to trust God after covert narcissistic abuse and why the gap between saying it and living it is not a faith failure. It is a survival response. The narcissist used control as a weapon. You grabbed it as a shield. And that made complete sense. But healing from covert narcissistic abuse means learning to release that shield so that you can finally allow God to do what only He can do.

Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop

→ www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop

 

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

 

Have you been trying to heal from narcissistic abuse by managing your emotions, pushing through the anxiety or just trying to think more positively but you still feel stuck in the same emotionally exhausted cycle? You are not doing it wrong. You have just been working on the wrong thing. In this episode we are getting to the root of why healing from narcissistic abuse feels so hard and it starts with understanding what covert narcissistic abuse actually did to your thinking. The words, the silence, the subtle put-downs, the gaslighting — those were seeds planted in your mind over time that grew into quiet beliefs that are running your life today. Beliefs like I am too much, I can't trust myself, something is wrong with me. And as long as we keep trying to fix the feelings those beliefs produce without addressing the beliefs themselves, we stay stuck in the same loop.
In this episode I break down how thoughts influence feelings, why managing feelings without addressing the root keeps you in a cycle and a simple practical place to begin tracing your feelings back to the beliefs underneath them. If healing and restoring your self-worth are what you are after, this episode is for you.

And if you are ready to go even deeper, join me live on Tuesday, May 26 at 7PM EDT

Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop

→ www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop

 

Resources Mentioned

→ Center for Common Sense Psychology

 

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

 

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but wondering why it is taking so long? If you have been praying, doing the work and still feel like healing is moving at a pace that makes no sense, this episode is for you. Healing from narcissistic abuse is not slow because something is wrong with you. It is slow because what was done to you ran deep. The abuse rewired the way you think, the way you trust, the way you see yourself...and that kind of damage takes real time to undo. In this episode, I get honest about the frustration of the wait and what God is actually doing underneath the surface while you are in it. I'm taking a closer look at Isaiah 40:31 and what the original Hebrew reveals about waiting on God — and it is nothing like what most of us were taught. I'm also talking about the exchange God makes with you in the waiting season and why the strength and peace that sometimes shows up in your hardest moments is not something you manufactured. If you are somewhere in the healing journey — whether you are just starting, hitting walls, or feeling like you are so close but not quite there, this episode will remind you that you are not behind, you are not doing it wrong and God has not forgotten you. And if you are ready to go even deeper, I would love for you to join me live at my free Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse workshop on Tuesday, May 26 :

Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop

→ www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop

 

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

 

Resources
→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness 

 

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

 

Tired of setting a boundary and then sitting there wondering if you just made everything worse?
Confused when they don’t explode but something still feels off?
Ever notice how the moment you hold your ground, the energy shifts… and you can’t quite explain why? 🤔

In this episode, I'm talking about what actually happens when you set boundaries with a covert narcissist so you can stay grounded in your healing journey.

If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself after doing something healthy… this is going to help you see clearly again. Because their reaction? It’s not proof you did something wrong. It’s often proof your boundaries are working.

 

Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop

→ www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop

 

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

 

Resources
→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness 

 

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

 

Have you ever set a boundary… and then immediately felt guilty for it?

Do you find yourself apologizing after protecting your time, energy, or peace?

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you were the problem even when you know something wasn’t right?

In this episode, I’m breaking down three specific guilt tactics narcissists use to make you question your boundaries and hand control back to them. This episode will help you recognize when guilt is being triggered on purpose so you can stop carrying what was never yours.

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

 

Resources
→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness 

 

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel like you're being mean every time you set a boundary?
Do you second-guess yourself after saying no even when you know you needed to?
Do you feel guilty for protecting your peace, like you're the one doing something wrong?

In this episode, I’m sharing why setting boundaries feels “mean” after narcissistic abuse so you can understand what’s actually happening and stop letting guilt pull you back into patterns that keep you stuck.

Connect With Me💛

→ Narcissism Unmasked Community

→ Become An Insider

→ Book A Coaching Call

 

Resources
→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness 

 

Email 📩

→ admin@growingthroughpains.com

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community

Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling 

Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.