Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth

48 | The Real Cost of Narcissistic Abuse On Your Identity

Have you ever looked up and realised you had become someone you did not recognise and could not even pinpoint when it happened?

Did you spend years changing yourself, shrinking yourself, trying to be enough and it still was never enough?

Covert narcissistic abuse has a way of taking you from yourself so gradually you do not even notice until you look up one day and feel like a stranger to yourself. In this episode I get honest about what that looked like for me — the slow numbing, the shrinking, the keeping quiet, and finally being told I may never change even after years of being willing to become whatever was required. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who spent years adjusting yourself trying to fix a relationship and wondering why it was never enough — this episode is for you.

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47 | The #1 Key to Restoring Your Confidence After Covert Narcissistic Abuse

Do you constantly question your judgment, your worth and your abilitieseven while you look like you have it all together on the outside?

Have you tried to feel confident after narcissistic abuse, or maybe never even known where to start?

What if rebuilding your confidence and self-worth after narcissistic abuse doesn't start with confidence at all but with reconnecting to the voice God placed in you?

If you have been wanting to feel confident again after narcissistic abuse or whether you have tried everything or have not known where to begin — this episode is your starting point. Confidence is not where healing begins.

Narcissistic abuse, especially the gaslighting that comes with it, goes after your internal voice directly — not just your decisions, but your sense of your own worth, your abilities, and who you actually are — until you doubt your grasp on reality and on yourself. But that inner knowing, that God-given instinct, doesn't disappear. It gets buried under everything that was said over it.
Learning to recognise it again, with God and not apart from Him, and telling it apart from the voice that moved in, is essential for restoring your self-worth and confidence after narcissistic abuse. 

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46 | Struggling To Feel God’s Love After Narcissistic Abuse? Here's How He Met Me

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but struggling to feel God's love even though you intellectually know He loves you?

Have you been going through the motions — praying, reading, saying all the right things — and still feeling empty and unseen?

What if the gap between knowing God loves you and actually feeling it is not a failure of faith but something narcissistic abuse quietly took from you?

Healing from covert narcissistic abuse touches every area of your life  including your relationship with God. In this episode I get honest about a season where I was repeating scripture about God's love and feeling the complete opposite. Unseen. Unloved. Unable to feel what I knew in my mind. I share how God met me — not through a perfectly crafted prayer, but through two songs on a random walk — and what that moment revealed about how He pursues us even when we are not performing.
If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who loves God but feels far from Him, who knows His love is real but cannot seem to receive it, I pray this episode encourages you. Because you're not experiencing a failure of faith. It is what happens when narcissistic abuse teaches your heart that opening up to love is dangerous. 

Resources Mentioned

Show Me Where You Were — Laney Rene 

Solid Ground — Megan Tibbits

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45 | Recovering from Gaslighting? Here's Why You Still Feel Crazy After Narcissistic Abuse

Do you find yourself constantly second-guessing your own memory and perception after covert narcissistic abuse even when you know what actually happened?

Have you ever talked yourself out of your own reality, even after someone confirmed it was true?

What if the voice telling you that you are crazy is not your voice at all — and recovery from gaslighting starts with finally understanding where it actually came from?

Feeling crazy is one of the most painful and most common signs of covert narcissistic abuse and one of the hardest things to shake even after you are out of the situation. In this episode I share a specific moment that shows exactly how deep the self-doubt went: an event witnessed and confirmed by someone who was right there, that I still managed to talk myself out of. We talk about why that happens and why feeling crazy after narcissistic abuse is not evidence of a broken mind but evidence of what was deliberately done to it. And we talk about how God has a way of quietly bringing you back to truth and restoring your confidence in what you know. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who has been doubting your own perception and memory long after you got out — this episode is going to bring you real clarity and real relief. Recovery from gaslighting and rebuilding your self-worth starts with understanding that the voice saying you are crazy is not your voice. It was put there. And it is not the truth about you.

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44 | Are You Relating to God Like He's a Narcissist? - What Covert Narcissistic Abuse Does to Your Faith

Do you ever feel like you have to keep it together before God — like the real version of what you feel is too risky to actually say?

After narcissistic abuse, do you find yourself bracing for God's disapproval punishment when things go wrong?

What if the way you relate to God has been quietly shaped by everything the narcissist taught you about how people with power behave?

This is an awareness episode — no to-do list, just a mirror. I share one of the harder seasons of my healing journey: navigating a court situation with the narcissist, depending on God completely, and realising I was secretly performing for His approval, bracing for punishment when things did not go my way, and terrified that He would expose my shortcomings the way the narcissist did. One question brought it all to the surface.
If you are healing from covert narcissistic abuse and struggling to trust God again, I pray that this episode will be a blessing to you. The patterns of narcissistic abuse — conditional love, fear of honesty, performing for approval, expecting the worst — do not stay in the relationship. They follow you into your relationship with God too. And awareness is always where healing begins.

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43 | Sick of Hiding Your Pain? Do This To Grieve and Heal After Narcissistic Abuse

Are you a narcissistic abuse survivor who knows you need to grieve but you have no idea where to actually start?

Have you been keeping it together before God — bringing the cleaned-up version of your pain — because the real version has felt like too much?

What if emotional healing after narcissistic abuse started with the most honest prayer you have ever prayed?

Today I am introducing you to lament — sacred sorrow — a grief practice that has been sitting in Scripture this whole time that most of us were never taught. I share the moment I found it, why Psalm 109 almost made me close the Bible, and what happened when I finally wrote my own lament — the anger, the tears, writing so hard I almost tore the page, and what came through on the other side. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor on a healing journey and you have been stuffing your pain because bringing the real version to God felt like a lack of faith — this episode is going to give you some clarity. Emotional healing after narcissistic abuse and restoring your self-worth requires more than managing your pain. It requires being honest about it. 

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42 | You're Not Broken - THIS Is The Missing Piece in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but still carrying a heaviness you cannot explain?

Have you been stuffing the pain and pushing through, only to find it keeps surfacing anyway?

Healing from narcissistic abuse takes more than awareness and setting boundaries; it requires grieving what was actually lost. In this episode, I get honest about something I am personally still sitting with: the grief of unmet expectation and repeated disappointment. Grief is not just for death. It is the natural response to any significant loss and after covert narcissistic abuse, there is so much that deserves to be mourned. 

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41 | Trying Harder Will Not Heal Your Nervous System After Narcissistic Abuse — THIS Will

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but your body still does not feel like it got the message?

Still braced, still hypervigilant, still exhausted in a way that rest does not seem to touch?

Still waiting for something to go wrong even when everything is actually okay?

 

Healing the nervous system after narcissistic abuse is not about deciding to calm down or pushing through the anxiety. It requires something far more specific and in this episode I am talking about what that actually is. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor or healing from a toxic relationship and you are ready to understand what your body actually needs to heal from trauma and chronic stress, this one is going to bring you real clarity and some much needed compassion for yourself.

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